So, Mr. David Hasselhoff is really in my bad books at the moment. Last year, I missed out on a cheap ticket for the Hoff and this year when he is touring, we’ve already booked a holiday.
It hardly gets more first world problems than this.
While we’re at it, school holidays are really not great for blogging (or getting anything done, for that matter), then you have to deal with people’s opinions or paperwork. This new laptop is painfully slow and last month I broke a nail trying to squeeze into that damn shapewear.
Just before you tumble into a spiral of NOT FAIR!, you watch the news and feel strangely awkward. After all, we had booked a holiday to soak up some sun for fall ages ago, just to be thrifty. At least, I did get a cheap laptop while my dear friend was dying slowly and people will think what they want to think and I’m pretty sure I will do that tax return. Eventually. Erm.
The world doesn’t stop turning and there will always be things that are highly irritating. Like, why do the store detectives of this world follow me on a weekly basis, why does Granny at the grocery store feels entitled to cut the line (I’m sure you’re not running late for work lady) and where is that damn cellphone? While we cannot change the world, we can certainly work on our attitude. Many moons ago, I started the no complaining challenge. It’s pretty obvious how lasting that effect was, isn’t it?
How much do we really need?
The American psychologist Abraham Maslow created a hierarchy of needs. Many may be familiar with his pyramid. At the base, we find
- physiological needs followed by
- the need for safety
Once these basic needs for food, shelter or water as well as for health, personal security and emotional security are being fulfilled, people long for different things.
On the third level of Maslow’s pyramid we find the
- need for belonging.
No man is an island and people have the need for intimacy, friendship or family.
The last levels are the needs for
- self-actualization and
- transcendence; philosophically or religiously
While this model is simplified, it provides a good indication of what makes people actually tick. In reality, this works much more in waves and overlapping, rather than a pyramid.
Are we just wired to want more?
Probably. Maslow believed, if you can do it, you should.
If you plan on being anything less than you are capable of being, you will probably be unhappy all the days of your life.
You will either step forward into growth or you will step back into safety.
Maslow left out material needs altogether. For example, you need a shelter but this shelter doesn’t need to be twice the size of your neighbors’. Next time you look at that closet that is full of nothing to wear or that job that is not awesome 100%, be grateful for even having problems like that.
Keep your eyes open for what really matters. Focus on your family and your goals in life. There are many people in this world who do not even have safe access to drinking water or education. So next time you are overrun by your first world problems, maybe take a deep breath and get real.